GUIDE TO SEX AND DATING 3: Date 2 and Beyond
If you have set up a second date and not heard form the guy by the day of the date, call once for confirmation, and if you don’t hear back, call again when you would have to start getting ready. If you still hear nothing, you have been stood up. Call me immediately with his personal information and I will go over to his house with some sort of blunt object.
Ex-girlfriends are ghosts to be reckoned with. Don’t ask a guy how many women he’s slept with, because his answer will be a lie. Don’t ask his friends because he’s lying to them too. Some don’t even know. There is a healthy amount of ex-talk, but only use it when it is relevant. One thing I will say is that if someone NEVER mentions a long term ex, they are not over them, and quite possibly still sleeping with them once in a while. I learned this one the hard way. Don’t ramble on and on about your ex, but an occasional reference is okay. Also be aware that you will constantly be compared to all of his past girls, and you must be comfortable with that. He will never say, “Yeah, well Jennifer sucked much better cock than you,” but he may very well be thinking it. At the same time, you will be thinking, “Wow, my ex had a much bigger dick than you,” so you may take solace in that.
Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to. “Am I the best you’ve ever had,” “How many women have you been with” and “Where would you rate me on a 1-10 scale” are all good examples. Most guys will lie, but some will not. And you could get very hurt.
Do not discuss your IBS, bowel movements, your period or yeast infections with a guy until at least one month. Maybe more. We just DO NOT want to know.
Lastly, men are full of shit. If I can teach you anything, it is to not believe a word a guy tells you until after he has slept with you. Sorry, again, a hard truth to learn. Men, especially in SoCal, will lie, pose, and act in whatever fashion they think you want them to to get you into bed. Again, sad. Best to go out with someone who comes recommended or knows you through someone else so you can get the real scoop. Just be careful.