Graig Makes a Splash in His Blogosphere Debut
Not that I am at all Angelina's biggest fan. In fact, some days I read her blog if for no other reason than to infuriate myself. But I read this post today and have been discussing it with several people via email all morning.
The inherent miscommunication, gender dynamics and gender politics contained in this short paragraph are way too much for my little fitness trainer’s brain to comprehend on two hours of sleep. It basically serves to show how little women understand about men and vice versa. Especially when you are young. And unfortunately this type of situation is when that lack of communication and understanding can have some truly horrible consequences. On both sides. Situations like the one she describes are how guys who believe they are innocent end up in jail, and girls who think they made their intentions clear get hurt. I blame alcohol. We should all just become Mormons and none of this shit would happen. But my boy Graig had a much better take.
Christmas Card Boy comments at the end of Angelina's post and pretty much sums up the male perspective on this issue:
"agreed that if you say no, the guy should stop. but let's get something clear, and it's no one's fault but your own if you can't grasp this concept: guys like to have sex. if you are even a little unsure about whether you want to sleep w/ some guy, then dont go back to his place or have him over to yours. and if you frequently drink too much to make this happen, then perhaps you should look more closely at your apparent drinking problem than the guys you meet when you are drunk. nip it in the bud. if you put yourself in this situation then that is your bad. take responsibilty instead of saying how guys are such assholes and love to rape girls. too many girls have made shifting blame and responsibilty a favorite pasttime... "
His comment was exponentially better than mine, and inspired a debate over several more comments. I have now used Graig’s material twice in two weeks here, and he has seemed to inspire some lively conversation among some of Angelina’s readers. Since I know he lacks the time to keep a reguilar blog, as it would cut in to poker and spinning, perhaps I should just have him as a regular contributor. “Posted by Graig” or something. What do you think?