Tuesday, March 28, 2006

Disappointment? Who Wouldn't Trade Places With Me?

Yesterday, someone called me a disappointment to my family because of my chosen profession. Am I a male prostitute? A porn star? Stripper? No, no, I manage a gym. And although no Jewish mother brags to her friends that her son shows people how to lift weights for a living, I have a job that I love going to every day. I work in a bright gym full of sunshine. I can write all day if I want to, as I look out on Biscayne Bay from my office. And if I get bored with writing, I go out and lift some weights. If I could get a tan while I was doing this I believe I would have the perfect job. And, thanks to some lucky breaks and my employers being very good to me, I am making the same if not more (at this point anyway) than I would if I had “used my degree,” as some accuse me of not doing.

Despite all of my complaining and hating on this blog, I actually enjoy my life a lot right now. I go out and drink more than I did in college, I have plenty of time to do the things I enjoy, and I am typically getting paid while I do them. I hardly ever have to sit in traffic; my commute is typically under 10 minutes. I get a 3-day weekend every other week. I have plenty of friends who at least pretend to enjoy my company, and I make new ones every day thanks to this blog. I am making enough money that I am able to do pretty much whatever I want and have enough left over to fix my car if it breaks down. I look good, I feel good, and even possible eviction and a ticket on the way to work don’t really bother me that much. I have two jobs, neither of which require me to do a whole lot. But they both interest me, keep me financially comfortable and, most importantly, do not dominate my life in any way.

Do you know why I am able to live like this? Because I prioritized doing something I enjoyed ahead of making a lot of money. I have a degree. In business management, actually. Unfortunately, I find the actual “business” side of things to be dreadfully boring, and therefore have sought out jobs that involved something that interested me. And anyone who thinks I am not using my degree has no idea what they are talking about. My first job, which dealt with nutrition and science, I would not have gotten without a business degree since it was in the marketing department of a Vitamin Company. The job I have now came down to me and another trainer, who was more experienced as a trainer, mind you, but since I had a degree, and that degree was in Business Management, I got the job ahead of him. So while I am not crunching numbers or figuring out gross profit margins, I am making a return on my parents’ investment. And, most importantly, I am happy. At least professionally.

Good ol’ Larry wrote a piece a few months ago that was, in my opinion, one of his best. Though I disagreed with a lot of it, it basically talked about how life sucked after college and the sad thought of working in a soul-sucking job for the rest of your useful life. It was a bit depressing. But that is what happens when you take a job based on money. You end up doing some shit you don’t necessarily enjoy doing as a means to an end. And I guess a lot of people I know do the same thing.

A friend of mine from Business School who works about 60 hours a week for a bank down here asked me recently “Why don’t you actually use your degree? Like, you are so smart, if you wanted to you could be doing so much better.” Granted, if I wanted to go the corporate route, I could be making more money. But “doing so much better?” Listen, there is no closer version of Hell to me than sitting in traffic for an hour each way, spending 10 hours at a job you don’t like, then driving an hour back home. In traffic. I would take my life now ahead of that life and a higher salary. And I think most others would too.

I don’t ever want kids, and I don’t really care one way or another if I get married or not. I feel no need to drive a fancy car, nor do I particularly aspire to buy any property. These things are just not important to me. So why put myself through hell five days a week to try and support a dream I don’t have? As I look out my floor-to-ceiling windows on yet another sunny day here is South Florida, I wonder if I would be able to do all this were I working in the business world as a strictly business person. Somehow I doubt it. As a matter of fact, I think if I were working in a job I hated just so I could make more money, that would be a bigger disappointment to my family than anything I am doing now.

61 Comments:

At 1:51 PM, Anonymous Johnson said...

Sorry WD, but it sounds like your life sucks man. You should take a page out of Matt Johnson's book and work 40+ hours a week of a mind-numbing job, listening to idiots all day, staring at your cubicle walls and wanting to jab a thumbtack into your palm just to make sure you're alive. God I love my business management degree.

 
At 2:12 PM, Anonymous Cliff said...

...or you could answer phones all day from Indian and Asian parents who want there kids to go to med school whether or not THEY want to or not...that is a fulfilling career..especially if everyone that works above you is as competent as you were running a fraternity..JK!....I too love my Business Management Degree....I "manage" to read my e-mail and blogs about 43 times a day to distract me from what I'm really expected to do..

 
At 2:27 PM, Blogger Ashburnite said...

haha....I'm with Cliff....I finally found a job that I like and can spend countless hours on the internet. But don't get me wrong, I would trade places with you any day. Especially considering that I found out today that my counterpart at one of our other DC properties is doing "task force" (going to a short-staffed hotel to help for a few months) in Bora Bora!! Fuck I wish I spoke French!!

 
At 2:31 PM, Blogger Tara said...

That is awesome that you are happy with your job, and to overlook Biscayne Bay? Fantastic! I love offices with windows. It makes a huge difference.

I don't think I was considered a disappointment because I wasn't using my degree for the longest time, but I don't think my family was happy with some of my job choices. I have never been a prostitute either, but I worked at McDonald's and apparently it's just as disgusting.

Now I work for a school and although I have my moments where I'm not happy, I think of how bad it could be without the people I work with or the amount of freedom I have.

 
At 2:34 PM, Anonymous Stuart Smiley said...

I'm me and that is okay. Glad to see you feel good about yourself.

"I don’t ever want kids, and I don’t really care one way or another if I get married or not. I feel no need to drive a fancy car, nor do I particularly aspire to buy any property. These things are just not important to me."

What guide to success book did you steal this philosophy from? I wouldn't share this with any girls that you would like to see more than once. Sounds like you enjoy being a slacker. Let us know if it is as cool when you're 40 and making less per year than your age while all your friends own homes and decent cars. Until then, wipe the sweat off of that bench for me.

 
At 3:12 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I say do whatever makes you happy even if it isn't viewed as being successful by society.

 
At 3:12 PM, Blogger White Dade said...

Johnson - That's what happend when everyone's first comment upon seeing your resume is "UM, wow, good football team."

Cliff - You do get to travel to such exotic locations as Kalamazoo, Michigan and Boise, Idaho, however

ASH - See, learning a foreign language is ALWAYS beneficial

Tara - I'm glad you find your job rewarding, although I'm thinking you did McDonald's just so everything else would look better later. Kind of like when I managed the strip club.

Stuart - You are right. Nor do I share with them my histiory of fat girls, my former coke habit, or any other degenerate confesisons I put on this blog.

 
At 3:15 PM, Anonymous Johnson said...

That's what happend when everyone's first comment upon seeing your resume is "UM, wow, good football team.

What's sad is that they used to say we had a great football team. Now it's just merely good.

 
At 3:29 PM, Anonymous Jason said...

I would rather be happy and driving my tercel than have to work 60 hour weeks to drive a sports car and have a nice condo. Some girls might think I'm a loser but I really wouldn't want to ever date those girls anyway. Monetary and material success are extremely overrated. The path of least resistance leads to happiness. American society is too obsessed with a misguided view of success. I agree with WD completely. If he is happy doing a job that some might not view as using his brain or being successful who is anybody to question that? He may have to sacrafice some things later in life that people view as important but he'll be happy.

 
At 4:02 PM, Blogger mrshife said...

I am pretty sure your parents view you quite successful especially if you are as happy as you say you are. Money is not everything and I think it is more important to do something you enjoy and the rest will take care of itself.

 
At 4:04 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor said...

Who wouldn't want to trade places with you? Anybody that makes more than 50k a year. Who called a meeting of the Losers club?

 
At 4:17 PM, Anonymous Astoria Girl said...

Not that I am into material things but a guy that is successful and motivated is always more attractive than a guy in a deadend job that seems to be coasting through life. Don't confuse this with golddigging. A highly driven person will always seek a similar person. If you are so proud of your life philosophy then why wouldn't you tell it to a girl you would like to date? I can see hiding the fat girls and the drug use but you seem to be so happy with where you are and where you're going , or staying in your case, why not share it? I think you've been bashing a lot of girls for their behavior but you seem to fall into the category of guys that lie about themselves to get a girl in bed. With that attitude you shouldn't complain about women. I'm sorry if I've misread but it seemed like you don't share anything you've posted here with a girl you would want to date.

 
At 4:30 PM, Anonymous Jack Bauer said...

I wouldn't want to trade places with you because I would have to castrate myself to match your lack of manhood. I would also have to stop protecting America and start ruining it to match your worthless existence. I am so much more important than a guy that wipes sweat of an exercise bike. I forgot, that is why you make an equivalent salary as the camel jockeys i protect you from. Is this a blog or a diary?

 
At 4:37 PM, Blogger White Dade said...

Anon - Thank you. That is my point

Johnson - I blame Donna Shalala

Jason - Yes. Dead on. thank you.

Shife - you and Jason understand what I'm getting at. Money is quite secondary to happiness. SOme just require money for happiness.

Andy - I fall in that group, before taxes anyway. So take another bite of your dick con carne

Astoria Girl - I do not blatantly lie to get women into bed. that is just sad. But any woman who wants to know how much money I plan on making before she sleeps with me is a whore anyway. And no guy is going to mention blow and fat girls to a girl that doesn't either do blow or french fries. Astoria, Oregon?

Jack - A little bit of both, I guess. I just thought I'd blow some sunshine up everyone's ass today since they say I am so negative.

 
At 4:42 PM, Blogger coloradohurricane said...

That's why I moved to Colorado even though it was a big cut in pay. You have to do and be where you are happy.

 
At 5:10 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor said...

Clearing 50k with two jobs? Is one of them at McDonalds? Don't you drive a baby blue saturn? Astoria is in New York City by the way. I think she caught you being a hypocrite. She didn't say she would ask how much money you make. I think that would be obvious though when they see your $10,000 car. Everybody that is sympathizing with you is basically a loser that can't cut it in the real world. Your parents are proud that you have a business degree and are teaching classes at a gym? I don't think it is a meeting of intellectuals when Bally's or Crunch or Gold's have their staff meetings. God bless your poor mother. I hope Chuck Norris blows up your gym. How would you survive without that 30k? Full time at McDonalds?

 
At 5:17 PM, Blogger White Dade said...

Look, Andy, I'm sure you are fat and happy living off all that Duran Duran money, but you are really in no position to insult anybody who actually has to work. Congratualtions on your succes.I have tow jobs, that I do MAYBE a total of six hours a day of work for and still make over your magical 50K mark. And there are a lot of Astorias outside of NYC.

 
At 5:23 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor said...

First of all, Duran Duran sucks. Secondly, is it closing time? Don't strain your brain reracking those weights that I refused to put back. Slacker.

 
At 5:55 PM, Blogger jenjen said...

I love Johnson

 
At 6:11 PM, Anonymous J said...

Alrighty...
Astoria- good analysis, I agree that motivation is important and that most normal girls look for that. However, in reality WD is (maybe to a fault) extremely forthcoming about everything, and has no qualms about revealing any and everything to nice young ladies. Also on this blog he'll solely mention the bad or the funny...as having a post about how responsible or successful you are is boring to readers and is pretty self-centered.

Andy- Best of luck to you making money. I'm sure you'll leave a lasting legacy. Also, I read your blog. I guess 50K+ can't buy humor or insight.

 
At 6:27 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't have a blog. You must be smoking the same stuff that makes this guy think he is a success working at a gym. He is also the one that says he wouldn't tell a girl off the bat about his lack of motivation. By motivation I mean desire to own a nice house, decent car, so on and so on. His words not mine.

 
At 6:51 PM, Blogger Bad at Life said...

Yesterday's venomous comments made sense to me, but I've got to say I'm a little surprised at all of today's hostility.

I think you've got to find your passion first and then your job, otherwise you'll just end up scoring TPS reports at Initech. And that's not worth it no matter how much bank you pull in.

 
At 7:11 PM, Blogger White Dade said...

Andy - Hating on your own band? talk about an ingrate. you know that rich old guy who cracks the whip and tells you what to do all day while you lick his nuts in hopes of a promotion. After he's done busting your balls he comes to me and pays me to tell him why he's a piece of shit.(and please do not compare me to a hooker and be more original)

JenJen - I love jOhnson too. He is so adorable

J - I am who I am. Lovew me or not. perhaps this is why I've never dated anything over a 7.

Anon - Some might say that doesn't make me shallow or materialistic.

 
At 7:15 PM, Blogger Ashburnite said...

I am really amazed that you write a blog about how happy you are with your current situation, and people still criticize you.

Honestly Dade, I say do what makes you happy and to hell with the assholes who look down on you for it. They're just miserable in their own lives.

 
At 7:19 PM, Blogger Trish said...

Right on, Dade. Good for you.

On our deathbeds, no one is going to lie there and say, "did I use my degree effectively?"

 
At 7:43 PM, Anonymous J said...

I DRIVE A DODGE STRATUS!

 
At 8:38 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor said...

A content loser is still a loser. Make sure you wipe down the machine after my boss leaves. Accepting that you work in a gym for a living, which is on par with working in restaurant, doesn't make you above the so called rat race and world of materialism. It only makes you accepting that you have a menial job which is quite sad. If this is how you justify your lifestyle then that is fine. I wouldn't say you are above it all when actually you are below it. Way below. I think I want to be a trainer. How will I ever find the time to take the two week course? If you are happy then more power to you. My only request is that you refrain from comparing yourself to people that actually do things with their lives and education. Duran Duran still sucks.

 
At 9:36 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor's Boss said...

For the record, Andy does more than lick my nuts. How he doesn't gag still baffles me. Deap throat or not, he's still in the mail room.

 
At 9:57 PM, Anonymous nicole said...

So yeah, SOMEBODY'S got it together around here and that probably isn't me.

Reminds me of the trainer that used to work at my old gym. He had already completed his law degree but decided that he loved his job at the gym more than he'd ever love practicing law. Gotta give it to you guys -- you know what you want and go after it.

 
At 10:55 PM, Blogger Andy said...

Wow, great post. Congrats, you are very lucky!

 
At 11:54 PM, Anonymous Johnson said...

WD, basically we have all the proof that we need to say that using your degree doesn't make you neccessarily happy in one Neal Stuckey. The man with the law degree who works 3-4 nights a week, does nothing but pour beers, play beer pong and throw plastic cups at you. I'm sure he could be making more money, but if you ask me, I'm sure he makes a pretty good amount of money for minimal amounts of work. Now that truly is the American Dream.

 
At 9:58 AM, Blogger angel, jr. said...

If you are happy, isn't that all that matters?
And you are healthy to boot!

 
At 10:10 AM, Anonymous nicole said...

Dade, guess what? You've been TAGGED!!!

Which means you absolutely HATE me, don't you? DAMMIT!

 
At 10:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don’t brag about your degree it is obviously useless. I am not criticizing your career path, but your lack of education. Your employer must be delighted about their decision to hire the applicant with the business degree, who then rudely and maliciously denied service to a potential customer as you so proudly ranted about in your previous post. Let me fill you in... They probably wanted to honor the membership so in turn she’d renew and maybe even refer your gym to other friends and family. Of course, what a bad business plan that would be, more Hispanic members in a city where they make up 50% population. I know your content managing the bench wipers, but you may want to share your savvy business skills with most major retailers who are spending millions marketing to Hispanics. Don’t worry though if things don’t work out at the gym try seeking employment at the grocery store you could always direct white customers to the swiffer aisle in English.

 
At 10:40 AM, Anonymous Johnson said...

I don't get it. Why are people pissing on a guy who's admittedly happy doing a minimal amount of work, for a decent amount of money in a city where, albeit he does bitch about it at times, he's content?

 
At 10:53 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

As I respect your career decisions, I must ask, you do realize this makes you a terrible Jew don't you?

 
At 12:17 PM, Blogger DrunkBrunch said...

Johnson's last comment sums it all up. Well put.

Dade - I also chose a (nonprofit) career I enjoy over making oodles of money.

It it feels good, do it.

 
At 1:12 PM, Anonymous Andy Taylor said...

If it feels good, do it. That is what WD tells his boyfriends. Does it feel good to have a so-called career if nobody respects you? If WD were managing a White Castle would everybody being throwing their praise? I'm sure it takes more brainpower and use of a business degree than wiping down the eliptical. Working for a non-profit and being a gym monkey should go over real well at a 10 year high school reunion. Good luck to all as I have a real job that requires real time and this has become tiresome. I'll send your regards to my employer.

 
At 1:13 PM, Blogger threetoedsloth said...

I, for one, say congratulations to you! Office work is miserable, and anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves or to the world or both. My office job is mangling my will to live, and it barely even pays enough to live on! But if more people were honest with themselves about what made them happy, every company in the country would probably shut down and we'd be back to the barter system. You're just lucky that there are actually paying jobs out there for what you love to do. I'm trying to do what I love in my spare time, and it pays around $20 per week.

Oh, well. Excuse me while I go jump out the window.

 
At 1:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

white dade, I can't make up my mind about you...I enjoy the stupidity of reading your blog, much like I like watching Jerry Springer reruns, it's trash for my mind.I'm pretty sure you are meeting Paris Hilton types, only not as pretty poor and with herpes.
You are happy to be mediocre and that's great, in a way, I envy you, you bask in the glory of eh, just eh.
Would I trade places with you? Nah, you sound every bit as exciting as watching TV-when it's off.
You sure know how to stir things up , for a white guy, but I do distinctly remember you writing something about being jewish, imagine that, a jew making racist comments.Ha.ha. But. I. digress. If you ARE jewish, I c-o-m-p-l-e-t-e-l-y understand your bitterness- you are nowhere near as succesful as your brethren, as a matter of fact even latinos are more succesful than you.Imagine that. A latino, lawyer, whose parents don't speak 2 WORDS of ENGLISH while a white dude jew, whose parents own the world, 'owns' a gym....now I know everything..It hurts don't it? Latinos Blacks, Greeks Italians, parents can't speak English, and their offspring buying mercs, travelling, IVY league schools, ouch that's gotta hurt.
by the bye, I'm Greek and female..

 
At 1:54 PM, Anonymous Nigela said...

Does anyone even care that I am spiraling into depression. I got a 10% raise yesterday on my near40hr corner cube position. Still I don't care. I really thought about a view of the Bay and blogosphere addiction.
Bauer/smalley/andy taylor/qbert - would you please quit...i don't have the enrgy to sift thru so much meaningless crap
Even if you make 300,000 you still might as well be making 50,000 because your head is stuck up your corporate ass. For a rocking time, I can latch onto any number of millionaires who never work in a matter of one hour. I don't have time for idiots with nice cars, a new condo, and a good income...they are so boring.

 
At 2:23 PM, Blogger jenjen said...

What a dumb anonymous Greek.
I now see how fine details are lost in blogo translation.
What a fuckn dork!

 
At 2:29 PM, Blogger jenjen said...

What hurts is being the only white american girl in a whole graduating class of a 'pseudo' ivy league school.

 
At 2:33 PM, Anonymous Tallyrific said...

Everyone flag this punk's blog. It is filled with rascist crap. Typical Miami no class punk. Go Noles!

 
At 2:38 PM, Anonymous Johnson said...

"Typical Miami no class punk. Go Noles!"

Good job. Now back to your hole in Trailerhassee. Maybe AJ Nicholson will beat you like he beat his girlfriend.

 
At 2:56 PM, Blogger Tara said...

I don’t ever want kids, and I don’t really care one way or another if I get married or not. I feel no need to drive a fancy car, nor do I particularly aspire to buy any property.

Wow, for a second I thought I was channeling through you. This sounds a lot like me, although I think it might be interesting to own a little house sometime way down the road. But in the meantime I'm enjoying people shoveling my walk for me and mowing the lawns and fixing stuff in my apartment.

 
At 3:06 PM, Anonymous UM blows said...

You thought a good job was in line with that UM degree? Freakin tard. Go learn some Spanish and rack my weights. Have you been rejected too many times by decent looking girls that you have to hate on Jen? You know nothing about her. Too bad she doesn't go for rascists. Be prepared for this crap to be shut down.

 
At 3:26 PM, Anonymous UM hater said...

Does anybody know which Bally's or LA Fitness this pussy works at? I think there are some faxes in line for his boss. Say goodbye to your blog and hopefully the job you love so much. See what you get when you fuck with NOLE NATION!

 
At 3:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm googling it right now. One more unemployed Cane on the way to join the rest of them. Maybe your rich daddy will take care of your gay ass.

 
At 3:41 PM, Anonymous Cliff said...

Be prepared for this shit to be shut down? What the fuck does that mean?

Hey WD, look how far you've come...it was only a short while ago it was exciting to get 4 comments...Now look at you, you're a star... you got haters all over the place loving your blog..whether or not they agree with you...you can tell they're obsessed with it though...they read it first thing in the morning and then check back all day to see if anyone else gave them attention for there comments...and then they comment again, and again...and then they say you're blog is a waste of time, but apparently not theirs...I love it...Good Work...

 
At 3:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I found 4 gyms in Palmetto Bay. It will be okay White Dade. You can be an usher at the Doak and see UM get killed in person. You'll be using more of your brain than now. Canes are the dumbest fucks in the state. This is what happens when you run your gay mouth.

 
At 3:47 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

a hater getting hated on by NOLE NATION. you fucked with the best and now you're afraid. say hello to your boss when the fax rolls in and say goodbye to your blog. stupid and rascist. figures you went to UM. which will come first, your boss calling you in to fire your homo ass or this being shut down? GO NOLES!

 
At 3:47 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

He works at the Bally's in Hialeah...1901 W 39TH St
Hialeah, FL 33012-7001
(305) 822-0227...i just found it..no wonder he's so bitter about hispanics..the fax is on the way...what a tool bag..

 
At 3:51 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is bullshit and misinformation from a cane. Hialeah isn't near water. His gym has a view of the bay. Palmetto Bay is by Cutler Ridge. I think it may be in Coconut Grove though. I don't want him working at the Doak. Maybe he can pick our shit up in the parking lot but keep him outside.

 
At 3:56 PM, Anonymous Larry Coker is gay said...

I found 3 gyms in Coconut Grove and 4 in Palmetto Bay. I'm calling to see which ones have a view of the bay. I hope he gets fired before the blog is shut down. Lets see how happy he is when he is unemployed. Hungry Howie's and Taco Bell are hiring in Tally. Maybe Jen Sterger will pass through before she goes to law school.

 
At 4:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

How about Momo's, are they hiring? They make slices as big as your head!!!

 
At 4:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nole Fan, I'm guessing you didn't have the grades or the money to go to UM right? Is that where the bitterness is coming from? Or the 6 losses in 7 years?

 
At 4:25 PM, Anonymous Brent said...

This is the most worthless blog ever. Hopefully White Dade will get fired and lose his blog along with all these FSU fags dying when Doak Campbell Stadium burns down for an excess of hating and jealousy. The white collar dorks are only made to look less retarder by the non-profit employees who think working in a gym is cool. LAME-O!!! Michigan is the real UM.

 
At 6:41 PM, Blogger Ashburnite said...

Hey anon/larry coker is gay/brent...whatever the hell your name is....newsflash for you: there's this thing called the First Amendment...while you are stalking WD on the web, you may want to look that up. It means that, unless WD is threatening anyone, he is free to say whatever the fuck he wants. Considering you spent so much time trying to figure out where he works, I guess his blog isn't as useless as you said.
And by the way, I find it funny that you felt the need to find WD's info, yet you hide under the "anonymous" identity so that no find out who you are. Hypocrite.

 
At 7:17 PM, Anonymous UM's Boyfriend said...

Imagine that, someone who went to school in Tallahassee calling someone else racist! The funny part is that they go on to call you a homo WD. It really speaks volumes for the educational system on the panhandle.

Off Topic: I think owning midgets should be legal!

 
At 8:38 AM, Anonymous Keith said...

o'doyle rules!!!!

you guys spit that "go noles" shit out like you've got tourettes.

 

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