Saturday, April 22, 2006

Nice Girls Don't Use Condoms

It is really America’s dirty little secret, isn’t it? I mean, even the most sexually irresponsible figures around try to make it seem like condoms are just an accepted part of sexual activity. Tom Leykis, despite his uber-degenerate and irresponsible persona, preaches condom use on every show. Snoop Dogg says that he’s got "A pocket full of rubbers and my homeboys do too," but I doubt those pockets will be getting lighter any time soon. Gil Grissom finds used ones at sex clubs and orgies to help solve crimes. Which is funny, because I'm sure everyone having ecstasy-infused sex in the VIP room stops to put on a Jimmy before they have their mind-blowing orgasms. My point is nobody, and I mean nobody, is using condoms.

Oh, sure there are those super responsible and perpetually sober few that use them religiously, but those are the same people who floss their teeth. And hookers are certainly keeping latex futures prices up, but you really can't judge a society by the actions of its sex-industry workers. So again, I reiterate, nobody is using condoms.

A lot of you, probably those who aren’t having a lot of sex, say "Well, that’s just becuase you hook up with skanks and your friends are slimeballs so of course they’re going to not use condoms." Oh, really? My female friends, who are for the most part what I would call nice girls, talk to no end about how much they hate condoms. More than most guys I know. The ones with boyfriends never use them, often opting for my personal favorite, the ever-effective "pull out" method. Guys, of course, will hit it raw unless the girl suggests protection, and more than a few friends I know have lied about having a condom just so they didn’t have to use one. Only 20% of the girls I have been with have used protection every time with me, and this number seems to be pretty consistent as I look over the sexual histories of others. Playing with fire? Sure, but our degeneracy does not equate to condom use. It is, in fact, quite the opposite.

The only times I have been refused sex on the grounds of not having protection were with girls that can only be described as hookers you didn’t have to pay. These girls were literally sleeping with a different guy every weekend, so they knew they had to be careful. But nice girls who have to "get to know you" before they let you stick it in? They hate condoms with passion worthy of a suicide bomber. While in other facets of life these ladies may be more responsible than their morally casual counterparts, when it comes to keeping themselves protected their brains just seem to shut off.

Nice girls don’t keep condoms in their bedrooms. So when they finally do invite a guy upstairs, if he doesn’t have anything it’s bareback time. Come to think of it, I have never even had one of these types of girls suggest we use a condom, nonetheless actually have one. There was another girl, not necessarily "nice," but not a tramp either, who actually took one out, looked at it, then grabbed me and went ahead without one. I guess they figure they can roll the dice since they are only with a few new guys a year. These are probably the same girls that use the "Anal sex isn’t really sex, so I’m still a virgin" logic. Again, we really do need to hang out.

I suppose the ease of abortion and the rise of anti-HIV drugs have fueled our carelessness with protection. And I am far form one to lament it, as even the most intelligent and responsible people I know in normal life throw caution to the wind when it comes to putting on a condom. We can do Public Service Announcements and talk on TV and in music like using condoms is actually a part our culture, but in reality, it's not. We need to stop acting like safe sex is part of the American Way and admit that everybody has lot better time without a latex barrier. It may be irresposible and ultimately detremental to public health, but at least we wouldn't be kidding ourselves the way we are now. And nobody likes a hypocrite.

30 Comments:

At 8:50 PM, Blogger Ashburnite said...

what about those of us "nice girls" who do keep condoms in their bedrooms? some of us actually do use them sometimes :-)

 
At 1:43 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Another great post, and it rings incredibly true for the young and urban.

Off-topic: Why don't you have a sitemeter or google analytics account / link from your page?

 
At 8:19 AM, Blogger Ale8one said...

kind of like drugs. what the government doesn't want you to know is that not everyone gets hooked. there are tons of people who have tried something at a party (like coke for example) and may never do it again.

but that's not a good message.

 
At 1:32 PM, Anonymous rumandpopcorn said...

Very true. Many would be surprised at the "nice girls" who, tired of you fumbling around with the rubber and trying to keep the mood heightened, going: "It's okay, just go for it." When the blood is flowing in that direction, caution often does get thrown to the wind.

 
At 1:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

By nice girls, do you mean stupid? It seems to me that the type of girl you go for and then proceed to screw fall in to the stupid, not nice catergory.

 
At 2:08 PM, Anonymous Jamie said...

But nice girls who have to "get to know you" before they let you stick it in? They hate condoms with passion worthy of a suicide bomber.

You are insane. Do you know how many times guys are stopped cold in the middle of a hookup because there isn't a condom? Nobody is using condoms? I would say Everybody is using condoms. Only those that don't care about their own health and skanks typically don't care. Sure, some girls will let you stop using condoms after a certain amount of time but the vast majority of non-skank non STD infected women usually insist on it at the very least in the initial stages of a relationship or on a one night stand. This was a fantasyland post.

 
At 3:16 PM, Anonymous A. said...

"You are insane. Do you know how many times guys are stopped cold in the middle of a hookup because there isn't a condom?"

You must be ugly.

The instinctual basis for sex is reproduction and so condoms are never brought up if you are good looking and/or the girl likes you a lot. Biology will override a piece of rubber if you fit the bill.

Also, girls who have had lengthy relationships tend not to use condoms because they are used to barebacking. Those are the "nice" girls. They are looking for their next long-term "mate", and once their bodies have decided to "mate" with you, condoms will not be brought up.

 
At 3:16 PM, Anonymous A. said...

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20060327/od_nm/risky_sex_dc;_ylt=ArqtBMoGpO5Yrlvvoijuxcis0NUE;_ylu=X3oDMTA3NW1oMDRpBHNlYwM3NTc-

 
At 4:02 PM, Blogger MonkeyPants said...

Yeah, I concur - those are stupid girls... not "nice" girls. And equally stupid boys for risking it.

Sure, if you're in a long term relationship AND you've both been tested AND birth control pills or whatnot are being used - go for it. Of course skin on skin is preferable. But casual sex - for real? Are you guys retarded??

And does "a." stand for "ass"?

Criminy.

 
At 4:21 PM, Anonymous jamie said...

a.- Thank you for the insult. We can compare attractiveness when we start posting photos. I don't think the majority of bloggers/commenters would be willing to do that. This guy said that NOBODY is using condoms. All I was saying is that is a crazy statement and that MOST girls usually require condoms is it is just a hookup or the start of a relationship. Skanks and girls that already have STD's are usually the ones willing to go skin on skin because they, as this guy says, despise condoms. I don't know too many nice or normal girls that let you go in bareback even if they aren't having sex all the time. They obviously are cautious if they aren't sluts and that caution isn't going to be thrown out the window just because they don't like the feeling. Once a girl becomes a girlfriend or constant bootycall then they may loosen up. The assertions made in this post were retarded and will end up getting you AIDS.

a.--you must be ugly on the inside. i'll post a photo here anyday if you want to be juvenile.

 
At 5:00 PM, Blogger White Dade said...

Ash - there are exceptions to evry rule. but do you really classify yourself as "nice?"

Anon - I don't put those up because a lot of the bloggers I started out reading didn't have them, and a lot of the one's I admire and respect don't so I didn't. I don't think there's anythign wrong with it, but I choose not to.

Ale8one - No, not a good message. Not evryone who has unprotected sex pregant or an STD. And thatisa fact.

Rp - Agian, we are on the same wavelegnth

Jamie - this has been my experience. Skanks rewuie condoms more than nice girls because thy know they are at higherrisk. Yours may be different

A- thank you for a slightly more inteligent analysis of my statements. You are absolutely right.

Mpants - Again, in your case his may be true. But not in mine.

Jamie - By all means, please post a picture.

 
At 5:25 PM, Anonymous Jamie said...

white dade-- everything isn't relative. that is how people get std's, by making assumptions based on their own experiences and not based on the reality of the world. you made black and white statements in your post and all of a sudden it becomes "we're all right. it's all based on personal experiences." in the comment section. you don't think it is a retarded comment to say "Nice girls despise condoms and don't use them. Nobody uses condoms. Only those that know they are whores and sluts use them." I think you were looking to be a little extreme on this one to get a reaction. I hope that is true otherwise you may end up with a severe case of crabs or worse.

How do I post a picture on here? It won't let me insert it or paste it. I'm curious if we'll get to see a picture of anybody else or if they'll stay hidden behind cartoons and initials.

 
At 6:30 PM, Blogger Ashburnite said...

Why wouldn't I classify myself as "nice"?

 
At 8:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

enjoy having aids, then see how much sex you get, moron.

 
At 3:33 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why are you guys hating on Jamie, your experience suggests that your perceived "nice girls" don't require condoms for casual sex. My experience (and his) suggests other wise. . . The fact that he doesn't have sex with girls without condoms, and you do makes you assume he's ugly. You accuse the people of having a problem of not using condoms, yet you accuse someone who doesn't use condoms as ugly.. . . wtf is wrong with you. Not all of us live in Miami or in a fantasyland. I bet you just want to brag about fucking girls without a condom.

You conclude your blog with a lesson stating that unprotected sex is the way of life. You say we should thus forego pro condoms measures. 1 million people in the US have HIV. You should research AIDS in Africa you dipshit.. . . .

 
At 8:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm with you dude. I hate condoms so much I could cry. Women will never understand how much they suck.

If a woman had to wear a condom and not feel anything like we do, they would drop them like a hot potato. It's like looking at ice cream behind a glass for an hour and then when you get it, it turns out to be plastic.

I actually stay away from the women that swear by them. Everyone I've met that forces you to ware one has been, as he says, slutty.

So condoms it ain't for me.

 
At 12:00 PM, Anonymous jbintokyo said...

You are completely wrong.

 
At 10:23 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

couldn't agree with the poster more. this seems to also be concurrent with my experiences.

 
At 9:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

every girl will say your completely wrong, and any guy that says your wrong doesn't have what it takes to get with the good girls anyway... this post is very true... I spend a lot of money and a lot of effort to sleep with the good girls, some out of challenge and some because I myself wont sleep with sluts... rarely do they use/need/want condoms... and I'd say 80% are on birth control to regulate their cycle

 
At 5:54 AM, Anonymous VirusPunk said...

I see your point. I am strongly against the use of condoms for various reasons. If anything, it isn't really evolution to wear a condom, it is more like a step backwards in evolution. The whole purpose of sex is reproduction, nature did not design us to wear rubbers nor should any of us be obligated to fit the needs of government 'AIDS' slander. If you're willing to have sex with another individual that whom you're unaware might an STD, then you're better off not having sex at all. Nice people get to know their counterparts before partaking in any kinds of sexual relationships. If you have found that majority of the people you know are 'nice' and still condone the use of condoms, then you better check your friends/acquaintances a little more thoroughly. Now I have nothing against staying protected against diseases, do what your heart desires. But it is apparent that some of you aren't aware of your surroundings by saying things like 'nice people always wear condoms' because that is highly untrue. I am not a religious person, but I stand by religious principles. It goes against nature to use a condom.

Jamie: About 20% of the world population are using condoms, and the rest of the 80% are against it, even in certain small countries condoms are even banned. It goes against every religious standards there are, which fits majority of the world population. Japan is the only country in the world where majority of the people use condoms, because they have a law that says you may only have 2 children per household, otherwise you'll have to pay the Japanese government taxes. Therefore, since people are struggling in Japan to make ends meat, it is in their nature to want to use condoms to avoid breaking that 2-per household rule.

 
At 9:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hate to have tell all you guys this, but this guy's post rings pretty true, at least in my experience. And if you aren't using rubbers and you're a straight, white, circumcised, non-iv drug using male who doesn't engage in unprotected anal sex, have sex with minorities or hookers, and mostly limits yourself to the higher end of the socioeconomic scale, the chances of you contracting HIV are pretty much slim to none. And then on top off that, if you're limiting yourself the "get to know you first" type of nice girl instead of bar sluts, you've probably got a better chance of getting struck by lightning or winning the lottery. Wear a rubber so you don't knock the girl up, but once again, if you're your limiting it to the higher socioeconomic classes, most of those girls are on the pill anyway.

Seriously, if you take the time research HIV epidemiology and its mode of transmission, that's kind of what the evidence points to. Even if you do have completely unprotected sex with an INFECTED partner, the transmission rate is still only about an estimated 1:100 (this is probably also skewed in favor the boys because male-to-female transmission is easier than female-to-male). Of course, no doctor or scientist is going to straight up tell you this because it goes against the modern sex education dogma.

And people that keep posting the cliched "Well I'm not a filthy AIDS ridden dirtbag and use a condom every time for intercourse and get tested and blah blah..." just shut up. You're either not getting laid or whenever you do, it's shitty. We know, you can't fool us. Nowadays, that is simply the morally condescending line that people with shitty sex lives quickly lash out since abstinence isn't quite as en vogue as it used to be.

 
At 8:47 AM, Blogger BohoPoetGirl said...

Oh my....

 
At 3:19 PM, Blogger Juan Pablo Hurtado said...

This is the way of thinking that lead to an aids pandemic. I will never happen to me.....But then it does.

 
At 4:06 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i would agree with this post. as far as aids in africa, that has nothing to do with condom usage that is more related to cultural beliefs that involve someone who is infected must have sex with a "virgin" to become clean again. obviously that only creates two problems. theres your aids pandemic

 
At 9:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't know how things are in Florida, but in nyc most women are going to opt for condom-usage as an essential method of birth control (no glove, no love). It’s not just an issue of HIV, but a whole number of factors. HPV (affecting 6.2 million Americans in the year 2000) has contributed to the development of cervical cancer in scores of women. It's pretty easy to simply say "Nice girls don't use condoms" when women are statistically at a higher risk of contracting STDs than men (simply by how their bodies are structured), and when you yourself will never be caught in a predicament where you have to scrounge up 600 dollars for an abortion, because you had to rely on some jackass white guy to pull out the right time. Understand where we women are coming from. The word “nice” is really not the proper word, here, it’s just “naïve.” Birth Control pills are handy to have, but to be honest, unless the woman is a complete dunce (or of questionable propriety), she’s not going to have sex with you out of the blue unless you’re going to use something. And “lying” that you got one on when you don’t (as many of your friends have done) is definitely not cool at all. Unless it’s a relationship where you both know where you’ve been, condoms are definite essentials that should not be overlooked.

 
At 12:41 PM, Anonymous Justin Smith said...

Most girls want a relationship with a guy they're willing to spread their legs for, whether you choose to call them skanks or not. Way more often than not, your skanks are just the girls who statistically got unlucky and never managed to hang on to the guy they let fuck them. Because this is the case, the way you've divided up the behavior between nice girls and skanks, and their outlooks on condoms, is totally wrong.

Therefore, all you've managed to do is label the girls you've just met and fucked bareback as "nice", and girls who insist on using protection with you as "skanks". It should be the other way around, since morons like you and your "nice" girls who are having unprotected sex, are statistically more likely to be disease-ridden shitheads than the ones using protection every time.

 
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At 3:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Absolutely true. Never once in my life dated a girl that asked me to wear one. And I said dated, not hooked up with. Once they consider you a date, your free to bareback.

 
At 10:17 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

100% right, I'm 21 & have slept with around 40 girls.. A condom was used with about 5 of those? My friends are also very sexualy active & i know, no one is using them!!

 

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